Online adult dating is a totally new way of looking for a romantic partner, but it actually simulates traditional dating in “real life” more than you think.
Here are a few examples:
People Love the Virtual Thrill of the Chase
A friend told me about his experience on one of the popular online adult dating services: Users make it known how selective they are. He points out that most attractive women with smart and interesting profiles indicate that they are “very selective” in who they connect with. This is not far from the bar scene where a hottie holding court in the room seems to be intimidating and tough to approach.
My friend is a little confused by this scenario. He thinks it’s shallow, but admits that if a woman responds to whoever contacts her, he is less inclined to find her attractive, even if he likes her profile. Conversely, if he gets a response from a girl who is very selective and responds rarely, he thinks he has done something right to deserve it, and feels more accomplished.
Freedom From Obligation
My friend spent a little time with an “attractive and intelligent” girl he met online. However, there was no spark, so he stopped responding to her messages and calls.
Because of the “virtual” nature of online adult dating, people don’t follow the standard protocol for rejection. If you’re dating a friend’s friend, or somebody you met in person, you might feel like you owe them an explanation. But what’s the point in continuing the charade? Dating online is all about efficiency.
Zapping People
In the essence of efficiency, my friend explained he only responds to women who look attractive on their profile pictures. This is very much the same in real life. I’ve also been told by another cut, funny and intelligent female friend who is into online dating as well that she gets a lot of messages, and she tries to respond to each one. But then it got too overwhelming, so now she simply deletes messages from guys who don’t look attractive in their profile photos without even reading them.
You Are an Advertiser
In the world of advertising, brands have a certain amount of time to throw a sales pitch to their potential customers. In just a short moment, the brand will attempt to make a big point by using a compelling image, strategy, and message.
Online dating is very similar to this. Writing short, but interesting messages to potential partners keep their attention. Who wants to read a long, boring message about your life? Telling just part of the story compels the reader to find out more.
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