It’s quite easy to pick up a bad habit like falling for the same person for the second time, or having a steamy make out session with them after being caught in a moment of weakness even if you’ve already had a falling out. It’s easy, comfortable, and familiar. And there are times when you just want to prove that you can do it again, or that you still have power over them.
If you ask me, I think it’s not a good idea to hook up with your ex in most cases. Here are the reasons why making out or getting back together with an ex don’t work out:
You Can’t “Make It Like It Used to Be”
You know it’s the beginning of the end when you feel that things are not what they are used to be. You try to work things out together, but the spark is gone and the relationship has run its course. I’ve been in relationships where I seem so into it when I go to sleep at night, and then wake up the next day wondering why I didn’t feel it anymore.
You Broke Up for a Reason
There is always a reason why a couple breaks up, even if it’s “mutual.” And whatever this reason is or reasons are this means you’re not compatible. You will both undergo changes after the breakup, but there is not much of a chance of you changing and be suddenly compatible again.
It’s Tough for It to Feel “New”
The fun part of a relationship is the early stages, and the best ones retain an element of this throughout its duration. However, it’s pretty tough to find this feeling again if you try to hook up and get back together with someone you already broke up with.
You Might Be Giving In
It’s normal to swear somebody off after a breakup. You promised that you’ll never get back together with them, and you’ve learned what not to look for in a guy. While there’s always risks involved when getting back together with someone, you might feel you’re giving in a little, which is never a good attitude when dating someone. It’s tough to get back with an ex with a clear mind.
If It Ended on a Sour Note, You Might Be Looking Over Your Shoulder
This gives emphasis to the old question: “What makes you think it will be different this time around?” And if you get screwed over again, you feel twice as foolish.
Trust is the backbone of any relationship. It is a frustrating thing like building a sandcastle: It takes a lot of time to build, but can be destroyed quickly. And in the aftermath, it takes much more time and energy put it back up again, but it may never be that same.
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